I’m a perfectionism and authenticity coach for chronic overdoers, overthinkers and stressed-out control freaks. I help them turn their inner critic into an ally and find powerful and sustainable ways to get on with what they care about without overwhelm and burnout.
With my own experience in high-stress environments from war zones to boardrooms, I’m now an advocate for using the principles of cyclical living and authentic relating, helping people manage their energy and emotions to bravely build more sustainable and authentic ways of being.
I am a certified somatic coach, authentic relating facilitator, menstruality mentor and author (thanks to George’s From Blog to Book course this year). My work is trauma-informed and grounded in nervous system resourcing and regulation. I am committed to helping people to embody their innate wisdom and power, reconnecting them with their natural flow, intelligence and creativity.
I’m also a recovering perfectionist.I’m originally from the UK, living in London prior to moving to Bali with my husband in 2021. I now live in Ubud where I also teach embodied relating to people IRL and am a cat-mamma to four rescue kittens.
I’m a perfectionism and authenticity coach for chronic overdoers, overthinkers and stressed-out control freaks. I help them turn their inner critic into an ally and find powerful and sustainable ways to get on with what they care about without overwhelm and burnout.
With my own experience in high…
3:14
"If we're not selling change/transformation, what exactly do clients pay for?"
Earlier in this course I talked about how it's not a good idea to promise results -- because you cannot do the work for them; you don't live their life. But if that's the case, what are they really paying for? They pay for: the program structure we've thoughtfully created our knowledge/experience our care/energy (the opportunity to receive it in our group that is not available outside of it) the vetted community we bring together the community we facilitate (a safe place to seek support and to celebrate progress) Our sales page does speak of the aspiration toward a vision, but it's not realistic to promise specific results.
3:25
Software for group programs
Popular options include... FB Group (private) Simplero (the platform you're on) MightyNetworks Heartbeat Circle.so Sutra Which software platform do you use (and love) to run your group programs?
I used a free version of Sutra this year but I do still like the old GoogleDrive, YouTube playlists and a Signal group to keep it free. Sutra was great and I love the team but I'm not sure it really added anything to the experience.
I've seen so many people use things like Mighty Networks and then no-one uses it and we end up on a WhatsApp group anyway, especially for smaller groups (20ish people).
5:35
Soulful game of hide & seek 👼🏼✨🌎
Let's play with this imaginary tale... In a celestial realm known as Heaven, a soul family thrived, aglow with a wisdom and love that felt almost boundless. Each soul was a unique spark in a grand constellation, radiant in the light of collective unity. Despite this wondrous harmony, a subtle yearning began to stir within them—a desire for deeper individual expression and growth. An Elder Soul stood before the gathering, saying, "Though we are in a realm of unity, we yearn for individual experiences to enrich our collective wisdom. Let us incarnate on Earth during a time of a great digital web, where we can send forth our unique energy signatures as a way to remember and recognize one another." In agreement, the soul family embarked upon their journey to Earth, manifesting in physical forms to navigate a world filled with complexities and opportunities. Bound by an eternal promise, they ventured into lives where they could both seek and offer lessons, always on the lookout for their kin. Grounded in teachings of authentic business, they each began to carve out their own unique paths. These souls emitted their energy signatures through heartfelt pieces of content—videos, writings, audios, and art. Each was an imprint of their authentic selves, designed to resonate through the sprawling digital landscape. While Earth's challenges—doubt, time, imperfection—sometimes darkened their steps, the soul family drew strength from their original mission. They saw these difficulties not as obstacles but as the medium through which their energy signatures could become more distinct, more refined. Over time, these soulful pings became more potent, more nuanced. Like cosmic beacons, they began to attract soulmates back into a collective orbit. Each reunion was a moment of celestial alignment, a rekindling of ancient connections, filling the souls with a sense of completeness and purpose. And so, every emitted energy signature and collaborative endeavor wove a new, intricate pattern into the tapestry of their Earthly lives, creating a bridge to their celestial origins. As each soul found its counterparts, the heavenly constellation they had once formed seemed to reclaim its brilliance, glowing with renewed fervor. The mission endures, both on Earth and in Heaven: to develop individual expression while fostering a collective, eternal unity. The energy signatures continue to flow through the digital maze and across the universe, each a note in a cosmic symphony of reconnection and love. –– courtesy of ChatGPT with George's prompting.
I had someone on a free call recently say that the reason they had booked the call was because of the energy of my website. So, I'm on the idea that this works and I can hold the metaphor lightly too!
3:40
Let's begin imagining your 20...
Imagine 20 people you love to work with – they enjoy your style and skills just as you are now, without you needing to change or improve anything – and you enjoy them as well. Part of this work – as all work of "authentic business" – is to practice believing in the value of your skills and presence, and stepping more into your authentic service-oriented power. Those 20 people probably already in your life/network right now. Draw them forth by writing a heartfelt description of them... You're welcome to comment below as you tell us about them – anything you can tell us is great, their inner characteristics, outer (visible) demographics, their interests, and most importantly – why they like and trust you. And what they believe that you can support them with. No perfection needed here... just write what comes to you. You can always update it later – and likely will :) After writing your comment, turn around and comment on 2 others' descriptions, especially if you resonate or know someone who is exactly like that! :) Just because you reply to someone's comment doesn't mean that you'll get a spot as part of their 20 ;-) but later in this course, if there's still space, and it seems aligned for the time being, they might reach out to you with a gentle invitation to play :-)
My 20 people:
- are in the first few years of their solopreneurships
- are often healers, helpers, coaches, therapists, teachers: pulled to make a positive difference in the world
- feel that their business, whatever it is, comes from the heart of themselves, and is deeply personal
- and so they want to be sure to have a clear message as their "brand voice"
- but seem to keep getting caught up in not knowing what to write, or how to write it in a way that connects with their own ideal clients
- often, my 20 people are intimidated by the amount of writing they have to do for their business, or feel that they don't have the skills they need to craft an effective message
- and really don't want to be inauthentic, manipulative, or misleading
- They might be experiencing a general lack of confidence in their writing skills
- or be totally overwhelmed by their websites
- or by the many other small pieces of writing that they need to do for their businesses
When it comes to know me, like me, and trust me, my Fab 20:
- align with my philosophy of copywriting/website design that's based on people making the best decisions for themselves
- they know I'm a truth-teller, and not into using manipulation to get people to buy something (that may NOT be in their own best interest)
- they know I am patient, that no questions are silly, even if you have to ask it multiple times as they learn
- they appreciate that I am a wordy nerd who like to think big thoughts and have deep and meaningful conversations
- they like that I have also worked as a massage therapist for many years,
- and have a degree or two in Education
- and they like that I am good at creating safe spaces to learn and work out those rough drafts of their writing work
- My soul connections are women who are already members of my free Facebook group or who have been or are clients or students.
- They know me and my style – they appreciate my non-judgemental support, and ability to offer different ways and thinking about perspectives about spiritual life.
- They’re looking for deeper connections and interactions than can be created on Facebook, and many are, want or have left the platform.
- They long to find a safe place, where they feel they belong.
- They’re curious about themselves and the world around them.
- They’re open and willing to explore different ways of living and being as a soul having a human experience on Earth during this radically shifting time
- They’re sensitives and empaths who struggle with making sense of the world and want to help make changes so that they can thrive more easily.
- They want to live with more ease and joy, to stay calm and centered even in the midst of chaos
- They want to make a difference in the world and feel like what they offer matters
- different perspectives about spiritual life
- wanting deeper connections beyond what's possible on Facebook, which is where they met you
- empaths struggling to make sense of the world
- wanting to feel like what they offer matters
My 20 beautiful people:
They work hard. They are creative, inspired and deeply caring. They want to be able to give to the world in deeply touching ways. But they feel blocked. They trip over procrastination or sink down into self criticism. They’ve already done a bunch of study into healing modalities. They LOVE learning and practicing all the models. They are creative, they take the practical pragmatic tools I give them and make them their own. They feel safe with me and they believe me that healing is possible. They tell me that they actually feel like they have hope, that they truly feel they CAN change their lives. They tell me that all these things were concepts until they met me, now they are practical do-able things.
My people are hard on themselves.
They're "busy". They work for themselves while juggling family commitments, studying or multiple creative projects.
They're frustrated that they're not further along.
They care deeply about what they do and the people in their lives and they want it to be the best, all the time. So perfectionism, a brutal inner critic, and procrastination all creep up and keep them stuck.
They're not new to personal development; one might even call them personal and professional development junkies. There's always one more certification to do before they'll feel truly ready. They tend to prefer self-study, squirrelling away behind books and intellectual understanding, but the big shifts have come when they've been in connection with like-minded souls.
They long to be more of themselves in the world and in their work. They want to be seen and recognised for who they are and that can feel really scary.
They love my energy signature - warm, supportive, open and tender combined with grounded, direct, pragmatic, and realistic. They love that my journey is so relatable to theirs; they feel like I really get where they are. They feel safe and like there's permission to be a messy, imperfect human with me.
I do think it depends on what you are offering, and the nature of the field. For example, I am learning handpan drumming and percussion in general, and all of the courses that I have purchased focus on "the yearning" to be a better drummer and musician, you might say, the dream. However, that probably wouldn't work for many of the more challenging, less-fun aspects of life. (So perhaps it is better to do as Buddha did and focused on offering a resolution to the pain-points for those.)