Human well-being is made up of human needs.
The more I’m able to care for my needs the more I increase my well-being.
Examples of needs are - the need for security and certainty, the need to be seen, heard and understood, the need for play and fun, the need for freedom and independence, the need for meaning and contribution and the need for connection, belonging and community.
A comprehensive list can be found here
In fact this is what we are all “doing” here on earth. We are all longing and moving towards the fulfilment of these needs.
For example we all long for security and certainty and we take actions which can meet these needs.
Think of any action that you’ve taken today and you will be able to find the 1 or more human needs that you were trying to meet through that action.
Brushed my teeth - health
Listened to a podcast - learning, growth, fun
Argued with my partner - to be heard, understood, acknowledged
Cursed the driver in front of me - reliability (that I can get to where I need to get on time), safety (on the roads)
So well-being is about being conscious of what needs of mine are calling out for my attention and then imagining different ways to meet them.
I might be feeling exhausted lately and notice that my needs for fun and play are not really being met much in my life (I am a dad of 2 little ones so yes I am really longing to have more fun and play - with people my age, I play plenty with them).
Once I’m aware of what needs might be going unmet I am empowered to think of ways to meet them.
For me I love playing tennis but haven’t played in months. So this week I’m going back to play. Tennis for me is fun and playful amongst other things. It gives me energy. So this is a step that increases my well-being.
Again the process is:
Consider which needs of yours are going unmet lately
Imagine ways to meet them and take those actions
Another example might be that I’m feeling a lot of anxiousness and loneliness lately. Perhaps I’m needing connection and friendship.
I notice that I haven’t been in contact with friends too much lately (also true for me) as I’ve been so engrossed in my everyday life and haven’t reached out.
Once I’m clearer on the fact that I’m needing more connection and friendship then I can take actions to meet those needs and thus enhance my well-being.
Maybe I’ll call a friend and share with them some challenges I’ve been facing lately. Maybe I go and drink coffee with a small group of friends and have a good laugh and connecting chat.
The beauty about needs as being the building blocks of our well-being is that needs can be met in infinite ways.
There is no limit on the ways that I can meet my needs for play and fun for example.
Build a DIY something, make popcorn and go on a netflix binge, cook a soup from a recipe you have never tried before, juggle, do a dance class on youtube, go for a walk, run or swim.
And needs can be met with a range of people. With your partner, kids, friends, one friend, colleagues, parents, siblings or with yourself.
Plus needs can be met in infinite times. You can do these things now, later today, tomorrow, once a week or in a few weeks. They don’t have to be done right now.
So for me well-being is about this awareness of my needs and a creativity and skill in going about meeting them.
Anything resonate with you here?
What is well-being to you?
Human well-being is made up of human needs.
The more I’m able to care for my needs the more I increase my well-being.
Examples of needs are - the need for security and certainty, the need to be seen, heard and understood, the need for play and fun, the need for freedom and independence, the need for meaning and contribution and the need for connection, belonging and community.
A comprehensive list can be found here
In fact this is what we are all “doing” here on earth. We are all longing and …
Human well-being is made up of human needs.
The more I’m able to care for my needs the more I increase my well-being.
Examples of needs are - the need for security and certainty, the need to be seen, heard and understood, the need for play and fun, the need for freedom and independence, the need for meaning and contribution and the need for connection, belonging and community.
A comprehensive list can be found here
In fact this is what we are all “doing” here on earth. We are all longing and moving towards the fulfilment of these needs.
For example we all long for security and certainty and we take actions which can meet these needs.
Think of any action that you’ve taken today and you will be able to find the 1 or more human needs that you were trying to meet through that action.
Brushed my teeth - health
Listened to a podcast - learning, growth, fun
Argued with my partner - to be heard, understood, acknowledged
Cursed the driver in front of me - reliability (that I can get to where I need to get on time), safety (on the roads)
So well-being is about being conscious of what needs of mine are calling out for my attention and then imagining different ways to meet them.
I might be feeling exhausted lately and notice that my needs for fun and play are not really being met much in my life (I am a dad of 2 little ones so yes I am really longing to have more fun and play - with people my age, I play plenty with them).
Once I’m aware of what needs might be going unmet I am empowered to think of ways to meet them.
For me I love playing tennis but haven’t played in months. So this week I’m going back to play. Tennis for me is fun and playful amongst other things. It gives me energy. So this is a step that increases my well-being.
Again the process is:
Consider which needs of yours are going unmet lately
Imagine ways to meet them and take those actions
Another example might be that I’m feeling a lot of anxiousness and loneliness lately. Perhaps I’m needing connection and friendship.
I notice that I haven’t been in contact with friends too much lately (also true for me) as I’ve been so engrossed in my everyday life and haven’t reached out.
Once I’m clearer on the fact that I’m needing more connection and friendship then I can take actions to meet those needs and thus enhance my well-being.
Maybe I’ll call a friend and share with them some challenges I’ve been facing lately. Maybe I go and drink coffee with a small group of friends and have a good laugh and connecting chat.
The beauty about needs as being the building blocks of our well-being is that needs can be met in infinite ways.
There is no limit on the ways that I can meet my needs for play and fun for example.
Build a DIY something, make popcorn and go on a netflix binge, cook a soup from a recipe you have never tried before, juggle, do a dance class on youtube, go for a walk, run or swim.
And needs can be met with a range of people. With your partner, kids, friends, one friend, colleagues, parents, siblings or with yourself.
Plus needs can be met in infinite times. You can do these things now, later today, tomorrow, once a week or in a few weeks. They don’t have to be done right now.
So for me well-being is about this awareness of my needs and a creativity and skill in going about meeting them.
Anything resonate with you here?
What is well-being to you?
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