DR
David Rubeli

I am a learning specialist and  coach from Vancouver.


Active 17d ago Joined 13 Jul 2022 Vancouver (GMT-08:00) Pacific Time (US & Canada)

Criteria for Selecting Content Topics: Compelling, Relevant, Aligned

I appreciate that creating content is an opportunity for exploring interests and topics that we believe might interest our audience, and I agree that writing is a great way to discover what you have to say about something. I accept George’s point that creating content consistently is a practice that we develop over time, and I accept the premise that disciplining ourselves to show up, do the work, and hold  the results lightly makes sense as a way of building our capabilities to create conten…


Just three sentences

Before the clock strikes midnight, I am going to keep the promise I made to myself to post something in this forum every day for seven days.  The choices I made today pushed my writing time out of its early morning slot.  So rather than giving up and writing nothing, I am declaring that I will keep the commitment I made to myself.  I will write these few sentences and then I will sleep without the shame of a promise unkept.  I am learning that keeping the appointments I make with myself is just as important as those I make with others.  Good night.  @Devora Gila Berkowitz



DR

It is good to see someone else determined to see the challenge through. Keep going.

The Status Quo Will Out

Robert Biswas-Diener’s “Positive Provocations: 25 Questions to Elevate Your Coaching Practice” has a lot in common with Adam Grant’s  “Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don’t Know” 

Both Biswas-Diener and Grant invite readers to adopt a positive, open-minded form of critical thinking and be ready to question  assumptions, common sense, and accepted truths. Grant’s focus is universal while Biswas-Diener writes for coaches.

Biswas-Diener’s first provocation challenges coaches to let go…


How labelling others ('idiot', 'untrustworthy', 'demanding') increases our stress and gets us less of what we want

Here’s a situation I notice happen a lot for me:

a) Someone does something I don’t like
b) I think “what a ____ (something negative)”
c) I feel anger
d) I get less of what I’m wanting

An example from this morning from the best place of examples for getting pissed off at others - the roads. 

I’m driving and someone who was parked by the side of the road reverses into my lane causing me to stop (a). 

In a fraction of a second I think “dickhead” (b). 

And then I notice I’m feeling tension and irritation…



DR

I appreciate the work you are doing to reframe an almost automatic response, and  your story reminded me of Susan David’s idea of choice points. In that moment, you have a choice to go towards your values and what is important to you or away from them

Conditions that enable effective workplace teams

I am a fan of Richard Hackman and Ruth Wageman’s model of team effectiveness. It is based on the idea that team effectiveness is based on six team conditions that must be in place for a team to have a shot at being effective. The six conditions are:

  • Real team
  • Compelling  purpose
  • Right team
  • Clear norms
  • Organizational support
  • Well-timed coaching 

Hackman and Wageman put a lot of emphasis on proactive planning by team leaders on putting these conditions into place before a team gets to work an…


Stumped by the Wordle

I was stumped by the Wordle today.

I missed it because I rushed without stopping to think.

It is worth taking seriously the advice that the correct word is more often  the most common alternative.

Fun lies in the process of finding the word not in maintaining a perfect score.

Discipline is pausing before entering a fifth guess before reaching the point of no return.

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This is my fourth post for the challenge. 

I am thinking about how Seth Godin writes a blog post every day and writes about whatever random topic or experience he has had and uses that experience to more often then not say something rather interesting. 


The common misconception that causes most relationships to break down

There is a common misconception in relationships. Particularly those more intimate relationships like partners, family and close friends.

The misconception is that I am responsible for meeting the other person’s needs and they are responsible for meeting mine.

For example in a romantic relationship, each partner sees themselves as responsible for meeting the other person’s needs.

This is not how I see things, although I find it very difficult to implement the way I do see things.

How I see th…



DR

Thanks for getting me thinking. Mike. The question your post raised for me is whether there is such thing as “healthy dependence” on another or does that just lower then weight of expectation unreasonably onto the other.