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Building credibility even as we tell vulnerable stories
A few years ago I talked with Masterheart member Eric Klein about how we can develop credibility authentically and he wrote these helpful notes: One: When wanting to use self-as-example in talking about “vulnerable” experiences like sense-of-credibility etc etc I find it useful to remember a true/example from my childhood. Using childhood stories is powerful because: You (as the teller) are not (as) identified with that event/age and so can have a sense of care/carefree-ness in the telling. You can have both empathy for your younger self and a loving sense of humor (which makes the audience relax, too). They (as listeners) can project their emotions into the story because it’s more of a metaphor than a “real life” adult-business-example of doing social media marketing (which may already be overwhelming to hear about). The part of them that is fearful/doubtful/reactive resides at an earlier age/stage - like the “you” in the story. So, there's a natural (though unconscious) connection. Two: The focus/reframe on shifting from "feeling credible" towards "cultivating/enjoying connection" is beautiful and it includes (at least) two dimensions: Connecting with the audience: Specifically their aspirations, needs, “problems”, and innate wisdom/spirit. Connecting with yourself: Specifically your aspirations, needs, “problems”, and innate wisdom/spirit. Combining these, we can curate the right focus, information, empathy, and stories. Three: Our sense of credibility is built on: Loving our subject. Caring for our audience. Caring for the parts in us that are feeling less-than-fully-credible. Making lots of videos while doing the above. Responding to the feedback/questions we get as key source of new material (which allows us to recycle through each of these bullet points).
I'm looking forward to leaning in and finding my weird. I'm sure it's not far away, I've just been suppressing it to " fit in." Banishing that now....
Trigger warning: suicide.
I am probably an outlier in the mental health field.
The usual narrative is people find therapy helpful so they become therapists to help others (Not saying this is bad).
Mine is the opposite. It was the harm that I experienced and my cousin's suicide that draw me. I want to prevent harm and help others.
I am committed to increasing my level of consciousness.
@Roxanne Koh (Therapy Without Boxes) that's a BIG why! 😍
I guess I am weird as I am now because there is nobody in the Philippines who has short grey hair, wears no makeup, always wears a white blouse/ shirt, who talks about the different areas of small businesses that owners should focus on.
@Myrna Natividad that's great!
I can be very intense, very introspective. I am a bit over the top with my zest for wellness. I tend to be ready at a moments notice to jump on my portable and invisible soap box to rant about something that is needing to be changed in the world or in ourselves as humans. I suppose that can be annoying.
I can find myself funny and playful on a video when I am amused by myself. I guess what I am saying is I do not take myself too seriously even when I am intense. I embrace my weridness
@Donna Becker sounds like you're raring to go! Awesome, bring it!
My soft way of interacting may not be as compelling on video. One-on-one, I have a desired outcome, hold it loosely, and weave everything together in a way that works for the client. I just know how/where to go next. Not sure how to convey that on video. I leave space for my clients to speak about their sources of strength and knowing.
You might be surprised how many physicians use their intuition as a starting point and then substantiate their hunch with best practices- not what is talked about in medicine.
I am a little weird that I weave spiritual principles (human principles) into leadership development.
@Deborah Munhoz for someone with a soft style, check out "the cottage fairy" on YT. You might be inspired
Inspired by this nudge towards letting our freak flags fly, I made and posted this: https://www.instagram.com/r...
@Liz Moyer Benferhat this is great! Maybe it my connection, but the video paused briefly every 10 seconds. Is that happening for anyone else? I love your brave experimenting, go girl!
I love these notes, thank you. Helpful.
Piggybacking and amplifying here: Another key piece is the "why" of the story: remembering that the telling of the story is not about/for us, that's not why we're sharing it. Instead we are sharing it to make a point. And also maybe convey that we are human, don't have it all figured out and/or need to look perfect.