I am a retired attorney and administrative judge. I am a coach and mediator with a long-standing interest and expertise in workplace conflict. I am certified as an Elephant Rider-- a facilitator in the Emotional Culture Deck. In addition to developing a coaching practice around conflict resolution, I help people reach their most important goals by addressing all the spheres of their lives. I am a Certified Pro with Full Focus. My business focuses on serving mid-career professionals ready to address well-being and professionalism. I use ICF-approved modalities in coaching. I mentor legal professionals and those who love them. I am available for one-on-one coaching, mentoring, and facilitating mastermind groups.
I am a retired attorney and administrative judge. I am a coach and mediator with a long-standing interest and expertise in workplace conflict. I am certified as an Elephant Rider-- a facilitator in the Emotional Culture Deck. In addition to developing a coaching practice around conflict resolutio…
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Let's begin imagining your 20...
Imagine 20 people you love to work with – they enjoy your style and skills just as you are now, without you needing to change or improve anything – and you enjoy them as well. Part of this work – as all work of "authentic business" – is to practice believing in the value of your skills and presence, and stepping more into your authentic service-oriented power. Those 20 people probably already in your life/network right now. Draw them forth by writing a heartfelt description of them... You're welcome to comment below as you tell us about them – anything you can tell us is great, their inner characteristics, outer (visible) demographics, their interests, and most importantly – why they like and trust you. And what they believe that you can support them with. No perfection needed here... just write what comes to you. You can always update it later – and likely will :) After writing your comment, turn around and comment on 2 others' descriptions, especially if you resonate or know someone who is exactly like that! :) Just because you reply to someone's comment doesn't mean that you'll get a spot as part of their 20 ;-) but later in this course, if there's still space, and it seems aligned for the time being, they might reach out to you with a gentle invitation to play :-)
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Consistent Time & Place
"I wish I could record videos with my laptop, but often when I'm inspired, I'm not near my laptop..." Inspiration is good, but consistency is required for the practice of authentic speaking. For most of us, inspiration is not sustainable for practice. In part because you'll often get discouraged if your inspiration isn't reciprocated by your audience's engagement. For sustained practice, see it as a sustained practice! How then to relate to inspiration? I would recommend habituating the writing down of ideas whenever inspiration comes... but then dedicate yourself to a consistent time/place when you record videos. During your planned time/place for making videos, take out those ideas you wrote down, and pick one that inspires you in that moment :)
I am planning to batch prep some videos on Sunday afternoon this week, but otherwise Saturday afternoon. I have been doing it in the evenings. I will edit 2-3 of them on Monday and Wednesday.
I thin, I'm quite weird on video (being my authentic self): My voice when I get into 'teaching mode', my movements when I move my head weirdly or think and look up too often, my speed when I'm slow talking (my German still isn't as my Dutch, even though Germans don't notice that I'm not German which is cool. But I definitely think my video would be better if one would listen to me on 1,25 speed!), and probably many other reasons.
@Yvette Berg - van Groeningen I was just wondering the same thing about the 1.25 speed - because in authentically speaking - it takes time to frame the thoughts, and it feels slow. But, perhaps to the listener, it feels like they are drawing from a deep well.
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Thanks for taking the IG Course 🫰 Parting words of encouragement...
May this course be an ongoing source of learning and encouragement for your IG journey! In the spirit of spiral learning, maybe it's time to start again at the top of the course. Look through the lessons to see which ones you'd like to revisit. Study and implement. And en-joy :)
Likewise, thanks to both of you. I'm still in the starting box, trying to figure out IG, but I really appreciate that depth of your knowledge about the platform and your guidance about how to use it effectively in business. Now for that post . . .
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Notice and help name each others' energy signatures...
The most valuable part of this course is the natural filtering process that gathered us here: we each resonated with the energy of this course, then cared enough about working on becoming keen observers and expressers of energy signature, to be here! Let's utilize this precious opportunity 💛 Step 1 -- Find a piece of content that you believe strongly reflects your energy signature. It could be a video, piece of writing, an image you created, a podcast episode, a webpage, or a social media post. Step 2 -- Add a comment below and give us the link to that piece of content. (First make sure it is publicly accessible, so we can see/experience it.) Don't tell us what part of your energy signature it expresses. Let us discover it for ourselves. If you don't yet have a piece to share with us, just go to Step 3 for now and reply to others' pieces. In the (near) future come back when you have a piece to share with us and take the above steps. Step 3 -- Reply to 2 other people's comments, especially if they haven't received any replies yet, to let them know: What aspect of their energy signature is very apparent for you... try to name something that other repliers haven't yet named... ...and also, what potential do you see with their energy signature that you'd love to see them strengthen? Enjoy this exercise! Besides the comments below (scroll down), also check out the live chats from zoom for this segment here. (If you don't see any comments below, it means you're not logged into the course, or perhaps not enrolled. If you haven't enrolled, you can do so here.)
Here is an example: https://gracecarteronline.c...
Over the years, I have input several descriptions of my ideal client in chatGPT. So I went to CPT and asked of all the various descriptions I've done, and your understanding of the work that most resonates with me, who are my 20 people for a group program. Here is the answer:
Your Ideal Client for the Group Coaching Program
They are highly motivated women, mostly over 45, who are:
1. Professionally Mid-Career or Beyond
o Lawyers, legal professionals, or those in high-responsibility careers who are seeking well-being and balance.
o Women in leadership or influential roles, eager to transform their careers, relationships, and personal lives.
2. Open to Personal Growth
o Curious about exploring their potential, embracing change, and creating new paths.
o Eager to adopt tools and frameworks that improve productivity, manage workplace conflict, and cultivate emotional awareness.
3. Emotionally Ready for Transformation
o They resonate with your calm, confident, and encouraging energy, feeling safe to share and explore in your presence.
o Ready to challenge their limiting beliefs, adapt to new ways of thinking, and take intentional steps forward.
4. Values-Oriented
o Driven by a desire to align their life and work with their personal values, such as justice, equity, and meaningful impact.
o Seeking a supportive and like-minded community for accountability and inspiration.
5. Prepared for Commitment
o Interested in structured, practical coaching programs that address their specific challenges.
o Willing to dedicate time and energy to a program that offers measurable outcomes and sustainable progress.