Calibration skills for depth junkies - setting boundaries and not going down rabbit holes...
Hi, Dorota.
So you have a question here.
That would be interesting for others as well.
Go ahead.
So I'm speaking as a as a self identified depths junkie or someone who would sensitive constitution, I process like deeply information, my business options as well.
And that leaves a perennial question of simplifying and identifying the big rocks as you call them.
The big rocks.
Yes.
You know, when planning on making choices And and I noticed that you are both capable of a lot of depth in detail, but you can also kind of cut through it and just go, actually, but what's most important is this, this, and this.
And this is very hard for me.
So I'm just curious of what goes on in you that it's possible.
But today, I thought of a of a second question to ask you whether you've noticed whether in whether Your type of human design plays a role in this because some people are modifying, you know, in human design where they are they have more stable phenomenon.
So they are kind of they they have the the the the the information available in them in a more kind of reliable way.
And some people are more organic and sort of unpredictable in functioning.
I have a lot of those gates And so I'm curious that the second question is, have you noticed whether some people are taking a principles applying them very differently than you do -- Mhmm.
-- whether you have those examples of stories because that might be supportive as well, you know, because I I cannot show up for my timed appointment with self.
And it's, you know, I kind of feel so bad about it.
Appointment with yourself.
Not appointment with others.
Right?
Yeah.
Yeah.
With others, you know, with others, it's easy.
There's an appointment with myself.
With things that are not urgent, but important.
And that I know that they need to happen often enough in business, but it is so hard.
So -- Yeah.
-- anything that comes to mind to eliminate Yeah.
Thank you.
Thank you for for asking this and raising this.
If you have other examples of the depth depth junky.
Actually, do you want to mention a few quick examples of what it means to be a depth junky?
Or situations where so, you know, like, you see some of the layers to a question to or to something.
And -- Yes.
-- and so so 1 danger is that you you you borrow down and and my work sessions, I cannot stop because I just go more and more and more but at some point it starts to become counterproductive.
Or I cannot start because because the whole thing I didn't know how to choose something that's short and simple.
So thanks.
Yes.
Yes.
Absolutely.
Thank you so much, Roberto, for for asking this.
And just for I'm gonna take you off screen for now, but you can come back if you need to.
And Can anyone relate?
I'm sure Deroche is the only 1 with with this issue.
So maybe we'll move on.
No.
I mean, all of us came right.
I mean, myself included.
I mean, all of us have this part of within us.
And some of us have that part much bigger within us, much more influential.
So I welcome you to comment below.
You probably have either a, you know, an empathy for this situation.
Maybe you have any particular example recently where you experience this kind of death death junkie as Doretta names it, or you have a tip.
You have a method that works for you.
Go ahead and chat below.
I think this discussion will be as useful as whatever I'm gonna come up with right now.
So, you know, the example here is, like, if I was a Dutch junkie or if I allowed that part to to rain right now, this call, this answer would be, you know, 12 hours long or or it would be, like, you know, 30 minutes long instead of 10 minutes long or 5 minutes long.
So I'm I'm purposely going to activate my what is the antidote to the deaths junky?
The the Boundary Junkie, perhaps, the the extreme Boundary Artist, something like that.
Because, yeah, I think it's about boundaries.
And I have a I have a video which I will link you to because you're a Dutch junkie.
You you don't mind getting extra links here.
With a video called temporary constraints.
So you can just go to my even Google does George Cal temporary constraint and you could watch I think I've talked about it several times over the years.
And that's essentially my main strategy.
Now, you talk about my human design and that might be interesting for you to know.
I I actually don't know my human design very well.
I I don't even like to reveal it, to be honest, because people start to make assumptions and and and also not assumptions about me so much.
Oh, which George is that?
So therefore, I can't be like this.
And therefore, they they there there can be an assumption that, well, if I can't be like George's Human Design, that that means his strategies won't work for me.
I don't get necessarily true.
So I'm gonna I'm gonna keep that secret.
But what what I have found about my own patterns over the years is I think I have a great impatience.
I think that's really the main thing.
I think a death junkie is more patient than me or maybe that part of me is stronger.
Like, for example, I I can't read books.
So that's 1 of my that's 1 of my witnesses.
I have a heart to I have lots of books.
I own lots of them because then they look really good.
The design cover design and the, you know, the the previews, the reviews look really good.
Oh my god.
I buy the book and then I can't I have a hard time reading.
To be honest, I just I have a hard time reading.
Chorus is too.
I'm pretty impatient about courses like I'll go through the first couple you know, videos in my garden and I think I'm done.
So thank you for those of you who are deaf, junky enough to go through my courses so grateful because I see your engagement.
I'm like, oh my gosh, I hope this is helpful.
But because I'm so impatient, I like the bottom line everything.
I'm like, alright.
Basically, what are you telling me?
What's the punch line here?
Like, I always try and try and get to the punch line.
And so I think that helps me to So I have 2 things I'll share with you here.
1 is I encourage you to explore the impatient side of you because I think that might be a natural antidote to to depth jumpiness.
It's like, sure, there's a rabbit hole that will go forever.
I mean, it's kinda like a Wikipedia.
You read 1 Wikipedia article, it's gonna link you to 12 more.
It's impossible because it's like a it's like a tree that branches out and it's like you start here, it's gonna branch out forever.
Yeah.
So for me, I'm like, I don't have I don't have the patience to go the other 12 just tell me what you're telling me.
Right?
Which is why it's interesting, you know, that the the the new tool that just recently released after there's recording, chat GPT.
The AI chat tool that has knowledge up until 20 21, unfortunately, can't browse the Internet.
But it's like it's very bottom line answers.
Like, you you chat with the the AI, you go, tell me about this and they just give you, like, 3 short paragraphs, and that's it.
They're like, okay.
Alright.
I think I'm good here.
You have to keep asking them.
And I feel like that's like a good boundary.
It's like, okay, we're not gonna tell you everything you need with 12 books to read.
We're gonna tell you 3 paragraphs.
And so there's so it's a couple of things.
1 is explore the impatient part of you and go just give me give me the bottom line.
Like, what's what's the essential thing I need to know for the next step?
So that's the next thing I wanna give you is I'm always I as as I continue special entrepreneurship, I've noticed that every step I take changes the horizon.
It's very interesting.
So I first think I'm looking at this landscape and there's a mountain here and there's a swamp there.
I am gonna avoid the swamp.
I'm gonna kind of head towards the mountain.
And then I take a few steps Like, oh my god.
I suddenly a lake has appeared.
Like, and I wasn't there before and the swamp turns out to be a mirage.
Like, what And the mountain turns out to be more of just a hill.
There's actually a bigger mountain.
So like like every step creates a different horizon.
So that's why, for me, my impatience works for me.
And I'm like, give me the bottom line next step.
What's the next thing I need to do?
K?
Because I know when I take the next step, it's gonna change again.
And then my interest is gonna change.
The horizon's gonna change.
The market changes.
Every step I take, not maybe literally every step, but, you know, we're on a regular basis.
Right?
So that's the second part.
And then the final part is this idea that no matter what, and this is I know you believe this.
Somehow, I think life takes care of us in mysterious ways.
The fact that you're here watching this right now means life has taken care of you up to this point, and life will continue to take care of you.
Your the life meaning your higher self will always jump in at the right time to save you various things.
God, your angels, you're just consciousness society, whatever you wanna say, but life will take care of you.
And I end with that because that gives me the piece that even if I don't go down the rabbit hole, you might just take the next step.
It's okay because if some if there's an important piece of information and I trust that life is gonna take care of me, And I didn't read the 12 other articles that are related to this topic.
I didn't have the patience.
I had the patience to read half of 1 article I go, you know what?
That's all I have the patience for right now.
I'm getting tired because I really I get tired easily when I read.
And I'm gonna be new to that.
I I really can't read much.
So I get tired quickly.
I'm like, okay.
I I read half an article and that's there's 1 step I think I can take.
I think I'm gonna take up 1 step.
There's 12 other articles, but whatever.
I trust that life will give me the essential information that I need because if I take that 1 step and I really should have read the 12 articles, then I'll make a mistake.
Mistake.
And life will go, not so much that.
And I'll go, oh, I'm gonna have a motivation now, maybe to read another article because I made a mistake and I only have the patience to read 1 more and I'll try something different.
And through that, I find that life just keeps taking care of me.
Whatever essential information I trust life will bring to me at the right time.
Well, it'll help me adjust based on my mistakes.
So with that, therefore, I'm able to go I have 1 hour for this topic right now.
I have 1 hour to prepare this course, I have 1 hour to study this technology.
I have 1 hour or half an hour or whatever boundary time.
Or, listen, I have a big project I wanna do in the future.
And it's there's so many things to do for it.
But I have 1 hour to show up for this project right now.
I'm just gonna do whatever I can do with this 1 hour, knowing that the horizon changes with each step.
So I hope this is helpful, and I look forward to seeing your comments below as well.
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Last updated 4 Oct 2023.